Sunday, October 15, 2023
Sunday, October 15, 2023
Sunday, October 15, 2023
In this video you’ll discover practical strategies to help your child overcome school-related anxiety and making friends.
Welcome to the second part of our journey in helping your child overcome school-related anxiety and making friends.
In Part 1 , we dove deep into the world of school-related anxiety and shared invaluable insights on how to ease those school-time jitters.
If you missed it, you can click here to view Part 1 for the first step to solving this challenge and get your child started on the path to school confidence.
In that previous blog post, Lucy, one of the parents within my CALM Parents and Kids Hub, explained the challenges her daughter has been having with school-related anxiety and making friends. We discussed how the first part of the solution was to understand that
these issues – school-related anxiety and making friends – are in fact two separate issues.
So last week we looked at strategies to overcome the first issue: school-related anxiety.
Now, it's time to tackle the second half of the equation: making friends. We all know how essential these connections are, and we’re handing you the keys to unlock your child's social potential.
Let's keep the momentum going… watch the video below to help your child to thrive throughout their school years:
Now we've got the other part of this challenge which is Lucy’s daughter’s lack of a belief that she can make friends easily. So at the moment, we're not going to push making friends. What we're going to start thinking about and focusing on is, “What is awesome about you?”
However, ‘awesome’ is my word. She might not relate to that word, nor might your child
NOTE: We use our kids' language. We don't have to swear, but we use their language, because their words land better than our words being put into their head. So when we are talking to our kids, we want to talk in their language. So whatever it is, I would love for you to be helping to notice some of their really awesome qualities.
So in this scenario, Lucy’s daughter needs some building up. She needs some confidence building and some self-esteem building. So this will help a lot of people… hopefully it helps you, too.
Here’s an example of something I did with my grandson quite a bit.
We have just the most beautiful relationship. He's such a shy, introverted kid, but we just have a gorgeous relationship and for quite some time, he was really introverted and was quite anxious.
So I just started on little things. I said, “There goes that dimple. There it is again.”
And then he smirked. And I said, “There it is. You can't get rid of it, can you?”
We were just having some fun and playing, and I said, “I love that dimple on you.”
Now, he's 16 – about to turn 17. But what's that doing?
We just want them to start noticing that they’re just beautiful the way they are.
In the case of Lucy’s daughter, we want to help her to have those feel-good hormones flooding through her body. She's been in enough pain and anxiety and stress. It's time to bring some joy back.
And so at the same time as getting those feel-good hormones flowing, we're bringing joy, but we're also reminding her of how special she is and how much she matters.
So with making friends, this is what we’re doing at the moment. We are not going to worry too much about making friends.
We want her to start loving herself again. We’re helping to notice some things. And it could be that she clears the plates on the table and you say, “You know, you are so considerate. I didn't even ask you. You just did it yourself. You're such a beautiful, considerate soul. Thank you.”
We want all as many little feel good moments as possible for her. It's time for her to start to believe, “Yeah, I AM considerate.”
Now, she might brush off the compliment, like many people do. Because, like, many kids who have got quite significant anxiety and are stopping themselves from succeeding (self-sabotaging) are not good at accepting compliments.
This is because deep down, she doesn't think she's worthy of success… in her unconscious mind. She's got a deep belief that she's not worthy… she's not worthy of making friends… she's not worthy of being able to go to school… and she's not worthy of success.
So it is time that she starts to acknowledge herself and love herself. She is worthy, but we need to rebuild this in her.
She wasn't born thinking these things. These are learned things. She's come to these conclusions herself. Which means that these can be unlearned as well.
These may only seem like tiny steps, but they are so much more powerful than they may look. They are the foundation for your child's journey toward building self-worth, which will help them to overcome school-related anxiety, create lasting friendships, and so much more.
You can help your child to progress, one confident step at a time.
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As parents, it's natural to want to protect our children from anything that causes them distress or pain. When our kids struggle with anxiety, our instinct is often to soothe them and try to make the anxious feelings go away. However, what if I told you that this approach can actually reinforce anxiety long-term?
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Having experienced anxiety personally as a child and parent, along with raising two anxious kids, working in the school system, and my own business supporting hundreds of anxious kids and their parents, I’ve seen and experienced what works and what doesn’t.
Welcome to the second part of our journey in helping your child overcome school-related anxiety and making friends.
In Part 1 , we dove deep into the world of school-related anxiety and shared invaluable insights on how to ease those school-time jitters.
If you missed it, you can click here to view Part 1 for the first step to solving this challenge and get your child started on the path to school confidence.
In that previous blog post, Lucy, one of the parents within my CALM Parents and Kids Hub, explained the challenges her daughter has been having with school-related anxiety and making friends. We discussed how the first part of the solution was to understand that
these issues – school-related anxiety and making friends – are in fact two separate issues.
So last week we looked at strategies to overcome the first issue: school-related anxiety.
Now, it's time to tackle the second half of the equation: making friends. We all know how essential these connections are, and we’re handing you the keys to unlock your child's social potential.
Let's keep the momentum going… watch the video below to help your child to thrive throughout their school years:
Now we've got the other part of this challenge which is Lucy’s daughter’s lack of a belief that she can make friends easily. So at the moment, we're not going to push making friends. What we're going to start thinking about and focusing on is, “What is awesome about you?”
However, ‘awesome’ is my word. She might not relate to that word, nor might your child
NOTE: We use our kids' language. We don't have to swear, but we use their language, because their words land better than our words being put into their head. So when we are talking to our kids, we want to talk in their language. So whatever it is, I would love for you to be helping to notice some of their really awesome qualities.
So in this scenario, Lucy’s daughter needs some building up. She needs some confidence building and some self-esteem building. So this will help a lot of people… hopefully it helps you, too.
Here’s an example of something I did with my grandson quite a bit.
We have just the most beautiful relationship. He's such a shy, introverted kid, but we just have a gorgeous relationship and for quite some time, he was really introverted and was quite anxious.
So I just started on little things. I said, “There goes that dimple. There it is again.”
And then he smirked. And I said, “There it is. You can't get rid of it, can you?”
We were just having some fun and playing, and I said, “I love that dimple on you.”
Now, he's 16 – about to turn 17. But what's that doing?
We just want them to start noticing that they’re just beautiful the way they are.
In the case of Lucy’s daughter, we want to help her to have those feel-good hormones flooding through her body. She's been in enough pain and anxiety and stress. It's time to bring some joy back.
And so at the same time as getting those feel-good hormones flowing, we're bringing joy, but we're also reminding her of how special she is and how much she matters.
So with making friends, this is what we’re doing at the moment. We are not going to worry too much about making friends.
We want her to start loving herself again. We’re helping to notice some things. And it could be that she clears the plates on the table and you say, “You know, you are so considerate. I didn't even ask you. You just did it yourself. You're such a beautiful, considerate soul. Thank you.”
We want all as many little feel good moments as possible for her. It's time for her to start to believe, “Yeah, I AM considerate.”
Now, she might brush off the compliment, like many people do. Because, like, many kids who have got quite significant anxiety and are stopping themselves from succeeding (self-sabotaging) are not good at accepting compliments.
This is because deep down, she doesn't think she's worthy of success… in her unconscious mind. She's got a deep belief that she's not worthy… she's not worthy of making friends… she's not worthy of being able to go to school… and she's not worthy of success.
So it is time that she starts to acknowledge herself and love herself. She is worthy, but we need to rebuild this in her.
She wasn't born thinking these things. These are learned things. She's come to these conclusions herself. Which means that these can be unlearned as well.
These may only seem like tiny steps, but they are so much more powerful than they may look. They are the foundation for your child's journey toward building self-worth, which will help them to overcome school-related anxiety, create lasting friendships, and so much more.
You can help your child to progress, one confident step at a time.
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