Help Your Child Thrive: The Power of Creating Boundaries
Saturday, December 30, 2023
Saturday, December 30, 2023
Help Your Child Thrive: The Power of Creating Boundaries
Saturday, December 30, 2023
Help Your Child Thrive: The Power of Creating Boundaries
The simple way of creating boundaries that replaces conflict and strict rules with ‘agreed understandings’.
Unlocking Harmony: Creating Boundaries for Happier Parenting.
Navigating those moments when your child’s behaviour doesn’t quite match what you expect can be a real head-scratcher.
But guess what? There's a way to smooth things out without strict rules. It's all about what I like to call "agreed understandings."
Tackling Your Dilemma:
Ever found yourself out with your child and they're not quite behaving how you hoped? Or perhaps they have some different rules when with you to what’s expected of them when visiting other family or friends.
I totally get it.
However, there is a way of setting things straight not with strict rules but by creating boundaries around ways of doing things. These boundaries make sure we, parents and kids, are on the same page, creating a more peaceful home vibe.
In the super-quick video below, Katerina, one of the parents in my CALM Parents and Kids Hub and the Mum of a 9-year old girl, shared her dilemma when it comes to her daughter not always behaving as her mother would hope when they’re out in public. In this example, it may not be particularly bad behaviour, but none the less, they may disagree on what is and isn’t acceptable.
Watch this video now to see how I recommend creating boundaries to help in these situations:
The Magic of Boundaries
So, what’s the deal with these agreed understandings, you ask?
It’s all about talking it out. Instead of just laying down the law, I urge parents to have a chat with their kids, discuss why certain behaviours matter, and then come to an agreement together. This way, children understand why things are the way they are, and they feel like they have a say.
Steering Clear of Control:
It’s super easy to get all bossy, right?
I mean, saying "no" and "don’t" might feel like the way to go. But let's switch gears. I believe in teamwork. It’s not about what others do or what other households follow; it's about us.
Agreed understandings shift the game from control to teamwork, making us a team. It’s a pretty powerful tool for respect, understanding, and a peaceful home.
We're in it together, no one dictating terms.
What’s cool about these agreed understandings is that it’s not just about saying "this is how it goes" and expecting compliance. It’s about nodding heads and saying, “Yep, I get it.” It's about reaching an understanding and seeing eye to eye.
When your children accept and understand, that’s where the magic happens.
Replace ‘Laying Down The Law’ With Connection:
The next time your child is giving you a run for your money behaviour-wise, try having a heart-to-heart. Explain your side, hear them out, and find that middle ground. It’s not about control and laying down the law; it’s about connection.
These agreed understandings?
They can change the game.
So, let’s roll with this journey. It might have its bumps, but these agreed understandings? They’re more than just creating boundaries; they’re building blocks for a stronger, more connected family.
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Unlocking Harmony: Creating Boundaries for Happier Parenting.
Navigating those moments when your child’s behaviour doesn’t quite match what you expect can be a real head-scratcher.
But guess what? There's a way to smooth things out without strict rules. It's all about what I like to call "agreed understandings."
Tackling Your Dilemma:
Ever found yourself out with your child and they're not quite behaving how you hoped? Or perhaps they have some different rules when with you to what’s expected of them when visiting other family or friends.
I totally get it.
However, there is a way of setting things straight not with strict rules but by creating boundaries around ways of doing things. These boundaries make sure we, parents and kids, are on the same page, creating a more peaceful home vibe.
In the super-quick video below, Katerina, one of the parents in my CALM Parents and Kids Hub and the Mum of a 9-year old girl, shared her dilemma when it comes to her daughter not always behaving as her mother would hope when they’re out in public. In this example, it may not be particularly bad behaviour, but none the less, they may disagree on what is and isn’t acceptable.
Watch this video now to see how I recommend creating boundaries to help in these situations:
The Magic of Boundaries
So, what’s the deal with these agreed understandings, you ask?
It’s all about talking it out. Instead of just laying down the law, I urge parents to have a chat with their kids, discuss why certain behaviours matter, and then come to an agreement together. This way, children understand why things are the way they are, and they feel like they have a say.
Steering Clear of Control:
It’s super easy to get all bossy, right?
I mean, saying "no" and "don’t" might feel like the way to go. But let's switch gears. I believe in teamwork. It’s not about what others do or what other households follow; it's about us.
Agreed understandings shift the game from control to teamwork, making us a team. It’s a pretty powerful tool for respect, understanding, and a peaceful home.
We're in it together, no one dictating terms.
What’s cool about these agreed understandings is that it’s not just about saying "this is how it goes" and expecting compliance. It’s about nodding heads and saying, “Yep, I get it.” It's about reaching an understanding and seeing eye to eye.
When your children accept and understand, that’s where the magic happens.
Replace ‘Laying Down The Law’ With Connection:
The next time your child is giving you a run for your money behaviour-wise, try having a heart-to-heart. Explain your side, hear them out, and find that middle ground. It’s not about control and laying down the law; it’s about connection.
These agreed understandings?
They can change the game.
So, let’s roll with this journey. It might have its bumps, but these agreed understandings? They’re more than just creating boundaries; they’re building blocks for a stronger, more connected family.
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