Saturday, April 01, 2023
Saturday, April 01, 2023
Saturday, April 01, 2023
Watch this video to discover why (and how) to help your anxious child accept failure and let go of expecting things to be a certain way
One of the greatest ways you can help your anxious child is to encourage them to accept failure and let go of expecting everything to be exactly the way they want things to be.
This can be easier said than done, so in the video below I share with you some of the most powerful TOOLS you can use to help you with this.
Best of all…
…you have EVERY ONE of these tools available to you RIGHT NOW… and they’re FREE.
Once you start using these tools, I’m sure you’ll see the potential they offer to help your anxious child, and to transform their life, and yours.
Hello, it's Sue Stevenson here. Today I want to talk to you about letting go of trying to be perfect.
Do you have a child who's afraid of making a mistake?
Perhaps your child's afraid of sitting tests or exams or speaking up in class or being told off by their teacher. Or perhaps they're afraid of feeling stupid if they get something wrong.
Well, perhaps your child worries a lot about what other people think, so they're always trying to please people and come across as perfect.
I heard a mum talking about her daughter the other day and her daughter had a free dress day at school. She just couldn't decide what to wear for fear of being judged by her peers. So she was really resisting going to school.
Another parent told me that her son was obsessed with getting his hair just right.
And a 15 year old girl I know spends an hour and a half every morning before school trying to get her hair and makeup perfect, which drives her parents crazy.
Now, if fear is holding your child back and your child has become a people pleaser or is constantly worried about getting things perfect for fear of being judged, here's what I want you to do to help your anxious child..
Firstly, accept imperfection in yourself.
Tell your child that it's okay to fail. Explain to them that we all learn from our mistakes, and tell your child you don't expect them to be perfect. Assure your child that it doesn't matter if they make mistakes. You love them and just want them to be happy, and that's awesome. Go you!
Now, I want you to ask yourself though…
…how do you feel when you make a mistake?
Or perhaps when your house is a mess and unexpected visitors arrive?
Or how do you feel being seen out in public without makeup on?
Or do you ever find yourself striving for perfection, worrying about what other people think?
Do you ever redo things or put a lot of energy into getting something just right?
Do you ever find yourself comparing yourself to other parents wanting to be the perfect parent yourself, yet feeling far from it?
If so, perhaps you are having trouble accepting imperfection in yourself. So I encourage you to let go of trying to be perfect because this will really help your child.
So stuff up and start feeling comfortable with that.
Secondly, make sure your actions match your words.
You see, it doesn't matter what you say about it being okay for your child to fail or make mistakes if your child witnesses you being a perfectionist. Or if you ever do worry about what others think, the words you say about making mistakes will not actually carry any weight.
As the saying goes, you have to walk the talk or your child simply won't trust you or believe those words that you're saying.
So in a nutshell, if you have a child who fears making mistakes and has a fear of not being good enough or worries about what others think of them, and you know it would benefit you to let go of being perfect, this is what you do.
You need to accept imperfection in yourself regardless of what others think, and start role modeling that to your child.
Then secondly, make sure your actions match your words and start showing your child that you do feel comfortable with your own failings and imperfections.
Now, I used to be very anxious about stuffing up and not being good enough myself. And when I realised I was passing this problem onto my kids, I decided to make this a priority to focus on, which really helped myself and my children.
So I encourage you to take this positive action if it resonates for you in any way. I trust this video has helped you today.
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When a 9-year-old girl sees “her anxiety” as a lifelong identity, it starts holding her back. She stops enjoying her favorite activities. Her parents realize she’s developed the internal belief that her anxiety means she can’t have fun and she is broken. To help their daughter become courageous and resilient (and get her back to having fun), they focus on rewriting her internal beliefs – including the belief that anxiety is something she has to deal with forever.
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After moving to a new school at 11 years old, Noah’s anxiety took a turn for the worse. The last three years have been a nightmare for him and his mum. Mum Melissa has waited for the experts at school to solve the problem. But nothing they try is working. Finally, Melissa realises that it’s up to her to lead the charge. Read on to see how Melissa figured out the solution that let Noah become a thriving, happy child again.
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The scripts from that parenting coach on Instagram. The strategies the therapist gave you. The tricks from your friend whose kid actually listens the first time. You’ve tried it all. And for a day or two, they worked for you. But then? Right back to square one. The tantrums. The power struggles. The exhaustion. And you’re left wondering: Why does nothing stick? What is going wrong?
One of the greatest ways you can help your anxious child is to encourage them to accept failure and let go of expecting everything to be exactly the way they want things to be.
This can be easier said than done, so in the video below I share with you some of the most powerful TOOLS you can use to help you with this.
Best of all…
…you have EVERY ONE of these tools available to you RIGHT NOW… and they’re FREE.
Once you start using these tools, I’m sure you’ll see the potential they offer to help your anxious child, and to transform their life, and yours.
Hello, it's Sue Stevenson here. Today I want to talk to you about letting go of trying to be perfect.
Do you have a child who's afraid of making a mistake?
Perhaps your child's afraid of sitting tests or exams or speaking up in class or being told off by their teacher. Or perhaps they're afraid of feeling stupid if they get something wrong.
Well, perhaps your child worries a lot about what other people think, so they're always trying to please people and come across as perfect.
I heard a mum talking about her daughter the other day and her daughter had a free dress day at school. She just couldn't decide what to wear for fear of being judged by her peers. So she was really resisting going to school.
Another parent told me that her son was obsessed with getting his hair just right.
And a 15 year old girl I know spends an hour and a half every morning before school trying to get her hair and makeup perfect, which drives her parents crazy.
Now, if fear is holding your child back and your child has become a people pleaser or is constantly worried about getting things perfect for fear of being judged, here's what I want you to do to help your anxious child..
Firstly, accept imperfection in yourself.
Tell your child that it's okay to fail. Explain to them that we all learn from our mistakes, and tell your child you don't expect them to be perfect. Assure your child that it doesn't matter if they make mistakes. You love them and just want them to be happy, and that's awesome. Go you!
Now, I want you to ask yourself though…
…how do you feel when you make a mistake?
Or perhaps when your house is a mess and unexpected visitors arrive?
Or how do you feel being seen out in public without makeup on?
Or do you ever find yourself striving for perfection, worrying about what other people think?
Do you ever redo things or put a lot of energy into getting something just right?
Do you ever find yourself comparing yourself to other parents wanting to be the perfect parent yourself, yet feeling far from it?
If so, perhaps you are having trouble accepting imperfection in yourself. So I encourage you to let go of trying to be perfect because this will really help your child.
So stuff up and start feeling comfortable with that.
Secondly, make sure your actions match your words.
You see, it doesn't matter what you say about it being okay for your child to fail or make mistakes if your child witnesses you being a perfectionist. Or if you ever do worry about what others think, the words you say about making mistakes will not actually carry any weight.
As the saying goes, you have to walk the talk or your child simply won't trust you or believe those words that you're saying.
So in a nutshell, if you have a child who fears making mistakes and has a fear of not being good enough or worries about what others think of them, and you know it would benefit you to let go of being perfect, this is what you do.
You need to accept imperfection in yourself regardless of what others think, and start role modeling that to your child.
Then secondly, make sure your actions match your words and start showing your child that you do feel comfortable with your own failings and imperfections.
Now, I used to be very anxious about stuffing up and not being good enough myself. And when I realised I was passing this problem onto my kids, I decided to make this a priority to focus on, which really helped myself and my children.
So I encourage you to take this positive action if it resonates for you in any way. I trust this video has helped you today.
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The scripts from that parenting coach on Instagram. The strategies the therapist gave you. The tricks from your friend whose kid actually listens the first time. You’ve tried it all. And for a day or two, they worked for you. But then? Right back to square one. The tantrums. The power struggles. The exhaustion. And you’re left wondering: Why does nothing stick? What is going wrong?
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