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Unleashing Bravery: Build Confidence And Courage In Your Child

This content-filled video shows you exactly how to build confidence and courage in your child, even in the face of fear.

When your child is full of fear, it’s impossible to get them to do what you want them to do. Trying to build confidence and courage in your child may be the last thing you think is possible.

They put up their walls, dig their heels in, and refuse to listen to you.

But it’s important to know that they’re not doing it on purpose. They are just reacting to their fears.

Therefore, you can’t bribe them to do what scares them.

And you can’t order them to do what scares them.

So, what do you do?

Let me show you. Watch the video below to see the 3-step technique to encourage your child to be more courageous and confident in their choices, even in the face of fear.

Hello there, it's Sue Stevenson here. Today I'm going to talk to you about how you can build courage and confidence in your child, especially when they're digging their heels in point blank, refusing to do what scares them.

What’s Really Going On

So your child drives you crazy at times when they just keep putting up this wall of resistance, refusing to cooperate when it comes to doing things they're afraid of doing.

The thing is, what's really going on here is that rather than being in flight or fight, your child's frozen with fear.

I'm sure it breaks your heart to see your child missing out on things that other kids are doing.

And you know that when they can go on that school excursion or go on the school camp or sleep over at their friend's house, or have the confidence to pat a dog or sleep in their own bed all night… it means that they'll be so much happier because they get to do so many more things in their life.

Yet you feel stuck between a rock and a hard place because you don't know how to help them.

You've tried the soft approach and the hard approach, and you just feel completely stuck not knowing what to do.

So here's what I want you to do.

Step 1

Firstly, I want you to take a spoonful of courage yourself. That is, a metaphorical spoonful of courage so that you are ready for a courageous conversation with your child.

Step 2

And then secondly, what I want you to do is, with compassion and kindness, I want you to ask your child this question:

“How will you feel if you don't?”

You might like to write that down so you remember it…“How will you feel if you don't……………..?”

Let's look at an example.

“How will you feel if you don't go on school camp? What will your friends be doing that you'll be missing out on?”

Now, I'm not getting you to ask this question to make your child feel bad. Instead, I want you to get them to think differently about the choice they're making. Because as Tony Robbins says:

“Most people will do more to avoid pain than they will to experience pleasure.”

So when your child has the choice to do something or not, they're more likely to avoid the thing that causes the most pain. And you want them to be thinking that the pain of missing out on school camp will be worse than the pain of going on school camp.

Step 3

Then thirdly, help your child make the courageous choice to go on camp or do the thing that they're afraid of, rather than choose to stay in their safe zone.

For example, stay at home in their comfort zone, feeling miserable though while their friends are having a ball on camp.

I want you to lighten things up a little and ask them to take a metaphorical spoonful of courage. Tell them that you've discovered that that's the best antidote for fear and anxiety.

And the thing is, this is the truth.

Courage does counteract anxiety. A dose of courage reduces anxiety like paracetamol reduces pain. And to reduce the pain you’re all experiencing in your household right now, your child needs to practice taking courageous steps no matter how small those steps are.

Summing It All Up

So to recap:

1.     Firstly, I want you to take a spoonful of courage yourself.

2.    And then secondly, I want you to ask the courageous question to your child. “How will you feel if you don't do [the thing that they are afraid of]?”

3.     Then thirdly, encourage your child to take large doses of courage whenever fear and self-doubt decide to show up.

Make sure you acknowledge your child whenever they do show courage because it takes a lot of courage for an anxious child to step outside their comfort zone.

Now with courage comes certainty and confidence. And I know you want your child to be more confident. So I'm prescribing at least one large dose of courage per day for your child and anyone else in your family when fear shows up for them. So go forth and build confidence and courage in your child.

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Unleashing Bravery: Build Confidence And Courage In Your Child

This content-filled video shows you exactly how to build confidence and courage in your child, even in the face of fear.

When your child is full of fear, it’s impossible to get them to do what you want them to do. Trying to build confidence and courage in your child may be the last thing you think is possible.

They put up their walls, dig their heels in, and refuse to listen to you.

But it’s important to know that they’re not doing it on purpose. They are just reacting to their fears.

Therefore, you can’t bribe them to do what scares them.

And you can’t order them to do what scares them.

So, what do you do?

Let me show you. Watch the video below to see the 3-step technique to encourage your child to be more courageous and confident in their choices, even in the face of fear.

Hello there, it's Sue Stevenson here. Today I'm going to talk to you about how you can build courage and confidence in your child, especially when they're digging their heels in point blank, refusing to do what scares them.

What’s Really Going On

So your child drives you crazy at times when they just keep putting up this wall of resistance, refusing to cooperate when it comes to doing things they're afraid of doing.

The thing is, what's really going on here is that rather than being in flight or fight, your child's frozen with fear.

I'm sure it breaks your heart to see your child missing out on things that other kids are doing.

And you know that when they can go on that school excursion or go on the school camp or sleep over at their friend's house, or have the confidence to pat a dog or sleep in their own bed all night… it means that they'll be so much happier because they get to do so many more things in their life.

Yet you feel stuck between a rock and a hard place because you don't know how to help them.

You've tried the soft approach and the hard approach, and you just feel completely stuck not knowing what to do.

So here's what I want you to do.

Step 1

Firstly, I want you to take a spoonful of courage yourself. That is, a metaphorical spoonful of courage so that you are ready for a courageous conversation with your child.

Step 2

And then secondly, what I want you to do is, with compassion and kindness, I want you to ask your child this question:

“How will you feel if you don't?”

You might like to write that down so you remember it…“How will you feel if you don't……………..?”

Let's look at an example.

“How will you feel if you don't go on school camp? What will your friends be doing that you'll be missing out on?”

Now, I'm not getting you to ask this question to make your child feel bad. Instead, I want you to get them to think differently about the choice they're making. Because as Tony Robbins says:

“Most people will do more to avoid pain than they will to experience pleasure.”

So when your child has the choice to do something or not, they're more likely to avoid the thing that causes the most pain. And you want them to be thinking that the pain of missing out on school camp will be worse than the pain of going on school camp.

Step 3

Then thirdly, help your child make the courageous choice to go on camp or do the thing that they're afraid of, rather than choose to stay in their safe zone.

For example, stay at home in their comfort zone, feeling miserable though while their friends are having a ball on camp.

I want you to lighten things up a little and ask them to take a metaphorical spoonful of courage. Tell them that you've discovered that that's the best antidote for fear and anxiety.

And the thing is, this is the truth.

Courage does counteract anxiety. A dose of courage reduces anxiety like paracetamol reduces pain. And to reduce the pain you’re all experiencing in your household right now, your child needs to practice taking courageous steps no matter how small those steps are.

Summing It All Up

So to recap:

1.     Firstly, I want you to take a spoonful of courage yourself.

2.    And then secondly, I want you to ask the courageous question to your child. “How will you feel if you don't do [the thing that they are afraid of]?”

3.     Then thirdly, encourage your child to take large doses of courage whenever fear and self-doubt decide to show up.

Make sure you acknowledge your child whenever they do show courage because it takes a lot of courage for an anxious child to step outside their comfort zone.

Now with courage comes certainty and confidence. And I know you want your child to be more confident. So I'm prescribing at least one large dose of courage per day for your child and anyone else in your family when fear shows up for them. So go forth and build confidence and courage in your child.

See other posts like this one:

Sunday, April 14, 2024

Do Time Outs Really Work?

Are time outs truly effective in teaching children valuable lessons, or do they inadvertently hinder kids’ learning and emotional growth? Many parents and educators rely on time outs as a disciplinary tool, but does this method work for our kids? Join me as we explore time outs' effectiveness and discover alternative approaches that prioritise empathy and understanding.

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In the realm of children's anxiety, the concept of contagion takes on a profound significance. Children often catch anxiety from their environment, absorbing fears and uncertainties from parents, peers, and the world around them.

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A Mother's Journey from Heartache to Healing

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