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When Your Anxious Child Won’t Listen And Do What You Ask

Sunday, May 14, 2023

Sunday, May 14, 2023

When Your Anxious Child Won’t Listen And Do What You Ask

Sunday, May 14, 2023

When Your Anxious Child Won’t Listen And Do What You Ask

If you have an anxious child who won’t listen and do what you ask, the trusted strategy shown in this video will help you to help your child..

Help! My anxious child won’t listen and refuses to do what I ask!”

If that sounds familiar, you’re not alone.

Many parents struggle getting their child to listen. They often find themselves repeating the same instructions over and over again, thinking to themselves, “It’s not that hard! Why are they being so uncooperative!”

There’s no doubt, parenting can be challenging at the best of times. And when your anxious child won’t listen it can take those challenges to a whole different level! It can be incredibly exhausting.

Keep in mind though that anxious children are often overwhelmed by their emotions – and often lack an understanding of and ability to manage those emotions. Their anxiety can also lead to a struggle to focus.

I completely understand how frustrating it can be sometimes (or often times!) when it can feel so hard to communicate with your child.

So this content-only video, below, explores a tried and trusted strategy to help you encourage your child to pay attention and listen to you.

By implementing these strategies, your child will feel more understood and supported. Plus, it will create a fulfilling relationship between you both and significantly reduce the stress for everyone in your household.

Hello, it's Sue Stevenson here. Today I want to talk to you about a really common thing that parents often tell me.

That is, “My child just won't listen to me or do as I say.”
Now, I wonder if you find that you are having to repeat yourself over and over, yet still your child ignores your instructions.

Sometimes you become so frustrated with your child, you end up absolutely blowing your stack at them because that seems to be the only thing that gets them to cooperate for you.

And sometimes that doesn't even work!

Parents Can Feel Powerless

I get it. It happened to me. And it happens in many families I come across. Especially when you have a child who digs their heels in because they're gripped by fear, feeling so anxious, they're point blank just refusing to do what you need them to do.

For example, just to walk out the door and get in the car so you can take them to school or get your child to sleep at night.

I was speaking to a mum just the other day who said she now has to give up work because this problem is stopping her from being able to get to work. And even when she had put in the Herculean effort of getting her child to school, her child's school would often call throughout the day, so she'd have to leave work to collect her child.

Another mum also told me that she has to lie in her child's bed for hours every night just to get him to sleep.

Now, if you find yourself feeling super stressed, exhausted, and powerless like these mums… not knowing how to get your child to cooperate… not knowing how to change this problem in your household… here's what I want you to do.

Step 1

Firstly, stop expecting your child to follow your instructions when they're feeling anxious.

Now, why do I say this?

Because when your child is anxious, the fear part of their brain is switched on ready for fight or flight, which means the clear thinking or rational part of their brain is switched off.

And let's face it, your child can't think straight if they feel like they're about to be attacked by a wild animal!

You see, the primitive fear part of your child's brain, their amygdala, automatically triggers them to act instinctively so they can only focus on getting themselves out of danger, not cooperatively following your instructions.

This is the main reason that anxious kids and even school teachers often think they've got a learning difficulty. Yet you know your child is very capable and smart.

You see, when they're relaxed, typically kids can think and express themselves very clearly. If your child is anxious at school though, they will likely struggle to learn and perform tasks because they lack confidence in those tasks.

Step 2

Secondly, start enjoying having conversations with your child when they're calm.

Acknowledge your child when they speak up and really show that you value their ideas and opinions. Start getting your child to think about and come up with their own suggestions about what you could both be doing that would help your child to do the thing they're scared of without needing to rely on you.

This means you'll be encouraging your child to think for themselves and be more independent. And you want your child to come up with possibilities and solutions that don't include relying on you to rescue them.

 Step 3

Then thirdly, stop thinking that this is about you needing to give your child instructions and telling them what to do.

When you come up with a plan together that comes from your child's thoughts and opinions while they are relaxed and thinking clearly, you're allowing your child to form new neural pathways in the clear thinking part of their brain.

That will now assist them to navigate their own way through what used to be a problem instead of slipping into that state of fear and anxiety again.

 Putting It All Together

So to sum up what to do when your anxious child won't listen…

                  *Firstly, stop expecting your child to follow your instructions when they're feeling anxious.

*Secondly, start enjoying having conversations with your child when they're calm.

*And thirdly, stop thinking this is about you needing to give your child instructions by telling them what to do.

Now after watching this video, I want you to grab the first opportunity to validate and acknowledge your child next time they come up with a good idea. This helps them to start forming those new positive neural pathways, which helps build their self-confidence. And I'm sure you want that. All the best with that.

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Help! My anxious child won’t listen and refuses to do what I ask!”

If that sounds familiar, you’re not alone.

Many parents struggle getting their child to listen. They often find themselves repeating the same instructions over and over again, thinking to themselves, “It’s not that hard! Why are they being so uncooperative!”

There’s no doubt, parenting can be challenging at the best of times. And when your anxious child won’t listen it can take those challenges to a whole different level! It can be incredibly exhausting.

Keep in mind though that anxious children are often overwhelmed by their emotions – and often lack an understanding of and ability to manage those emotions. Their anxiety can also lead to a struggle to focus.

I completely understand how frustrating it can be sometimes (or often times!) when it can feel so hard to communicate with your child.

So this content-only video, below, explores a tried and trusted strategy to help you encourage your child to pay attention and listen to you.

By implementing these strategies, your child will feel more understood and supported. Plus, it will create a fulfilling relationship between you both and significantly reduce the stress for everyone in your household.

Hello, it's Sue Stevenson here. Today I want to talk to you about a really common thing that parents often tell me.

That is, “My child just won't listen to me or do as I say.”
Now, I wonder if you find that you are having to repeat yourself over and over, yet still your child ignores your instructions.

Sometimes you become so frustrated with your child, you end up absolutely blowing your stack at them because that seems to be the only thing that gets them to cooperate for you.

And sometimes that doesn't even work!

Parents Can Feel Powerless

I get it. It happened to me. And it happens in many families I come across. Especially when you have a child who digs their heels in because they're gripped by fear, feeling so anxious, they're point blank just refusing to do what you need them to do.

For example, just to walk out the door and get in the car so you can take them to school or get your child to sleep at night.

I was speaking to a mum just the other day who said she now has to give up work because this problem is stopping her from being able to get to work. And even when she had put in the Herculean effort of getting her child to school, her child's school would often call throughout the day, so she'd have to leave work to collect her child.

Another mum also told me that she has to lie in her child's bed for hours every night just to get him to sleep.

Now, if you find yourself feeling super stressed, exhausted, and powerless like these mums… not knowing how to get your child to cooperate… not knowing how to change this problem in your household… here's what I want you to do.

Step 1

Firstly, stop expecting your child to follow your instructions when they're feeling anxious.

Now, why do I say this?

Because when your child is anxious, the fear part of their brain is switched on ready for fight or flight, which means the clear thinking or rational part of their brain is switched off.

And let's face it, your child can't think straight if they feel like they're about to be attacked by a wild animal!

You see, the primitive fear part of your child's brain, their amygdala, automatically triggers them to act instinctively so they can only focus on getting themselves out of danger, not cooperatively following your instructions.

This is the main reason that anxious kids and even school teachers often think they've got a learning difficulty. Yet you know your child is very capable and smart.

You see, when they're relaxed, typically kids can think and express themselves very clearly. If your child is anxious at school though, they will likely struggle to learn and perform tasks because they lack confidence in those tasks.

Step 2

Secondly, start enjoying having conversations with your child when they're calm.

Acknowledge your child when they speak up and really show that you value their ideas and opinions. Start getting your child to think about and come up with their own suggestions about what you could both be doing that would help your child to do the thing they're scared of without needing to rely on you.

This means you'll be encouraging your child to think for themselves and be more independent. And you want your child to come up with possibilities and solutions that don't include relying on you to rescue them.

 Step 3

Then thirdly, stop thinking that this is about you needing to give your child instructions and telling them what to do.

When you come up with a plan together that comes from your child's thoughts and opinions while they are relaxed and thinking clearly, you're allowing your child to form new neural pathways in the clear thinking part of their brain.

That will now assist them to navigate their own way through what used to be a problem instead of slipping into that state of fear and anxiety again.

 Putting It All Together

So to sum up what to do when your anxious child won't listen…

                  *Firstly, stop expecting your child to follow your instructions when they're feeling anxious.

*Secondly, start enjoying having conversations with your child when they're calm.

*And thirdly, stop thinking this is about you needing to give your child instructions by telling them what to do.

Now after watching this video, I want you to grab the first opportunity to validate and acknowledge your child next time they come up with a good idea. This helps them to start forming those new positive neural pathways, which helps build their self-confidence. And I'm sure you want that. All the best with that.

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